Nature versus nurture

 Posted by on March 18, 2014  No Responses »
Mar 182014
 

Nature versus nurture.

It’s been long debated by psychologists whether you’re the way you are because of nature (your genes) or by nurture (your environment). The debate will probably go on until the Lord comes back.

Have you thought about the nature versus nurture debate in regard to your parenting? Whether or not you let nature take its course or if you nurture your children, molding them into what you feel like the Lord would have them be?

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Today in our society, many parents neglect the opportunity they have to make a difference in the lives of their children. They neglect discipline as if it were a plague. They let other people raise their children (if not physically, at least emotionally). They subscribe to the theory that it takes a village to raise children and while it does take more than one person to have an impact on a child’s life, “the village” ultimately is not responsible to God for the raising. Parents are.

When parents let nature take its course with their children, they have no way of knowing how things will turn out. Because we’re sinful creatures, we’re naturally inclined to sin. The world would say our sinful nature is nothing more than human nature and our life experiences make us better people. Yes, our failures do make us better people if we use them for the good, but that doesn’t make some of those things any less sinful or acceptable.

Our goal as parents should be to nurture our children. To grow them in the admonition of the Lord. To make sure that nature doesn’t take its course to the extent that our children are untamed like a wild river.

But how do we do this?

It’s easy to say that you should raise your children to follow the Lord. It’s an entirely different thing for it to actually happen. The truth is: we, as parents, are sometimes just as wild and untamed and unwilling to be nurtured as our children are. We rebel against any type of structure. Even in our homeschooling sometimes, we tend to neglect our schedules and take too many relaxed days. What happens? We get to May 30th and realize we still have 30 or 40 days of school left and we’re going to miss our summer break.

So while structure sometimes isn’t fun and allowing ourselves to be nurtured and groomed in a certain way feels restricting, in the long run it’s better for us and it’s better for our children. I certainly do not subscribe to the theory that life shouldn’t be fun and that it should be all work all of the time. The Lord knows I would have dried up and withered away long before now if that were the case. But when let people influence me in a Godly way and smooth out my rough spots and nurture me instead of letting me be the natural wild beast that I’d be, I come out so much better on the other side. The same is true with our children.

If we never instruct our toddlers to behave and if we never teach manners and general proper behavior, they’re going to be like untamed beasts. If we fail to teach them how the Lord would have them live, they’ll bring shame upon the Lord and upon your family. And upon themselves ultimately.

So the debate between “nurture or nature” may go on for generations to come, but I hope you’ll see that the most natural way to parent and to grow children who will walk in the Lord is to nurture them.

Proverbs 22:6: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

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March 2014 Around the Web by @littlesanctuary at www.habitsforahappyhome.com

John Stott’s Prayer for the Next Generation

Why We Shouldn’t Neglect to Meet Together

How to care for your family into eternity

Is Your Grandmother More Alive Than You?

Will America Be Judged?

Preparing Your Teen for College

Beyond Blushing

Sin and the child of God are incompatible. They may occasionally meet; they cannot live together in harmony. ~John Stott

Kim ~littlesanctuary

Mar 102014
 

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Grace for Ordinary Days

 Posted by on March 4, 2014  2 Responses »
Mar 042014
 

Winter can be a dreary time of year.  Lots of rain or snow make the sun disappear for days at a time.  Little irritations can seem so much bigger than they really are. The promise of spring is ahead, but just out of reach.  And the kids.  They just want to be outside!  (How do you help a two year old understand that he cannot ride his bike when it is 30 degrees outside?!)

How does one make it through the long season of short days and longer nights? Only by His grace.  There have been many days lately that I have felt like a failure as a Mom.  I have felt like I am doing this all wrong, and that my children will bear the ill-affects.  But when I start thinking like that, I must remind myself that it is not all about me!  The ultimate good of my children rests in the hands of my all-wise Father, and He can use me in spite of the times I fall.

My boys both got bikes for Christmas, and sad to say, they have both already had little wrecks here and there.  Do they quit, though?  No. They cry a little, get Mama to kiss their ouchie, and then get back on and pedal some more.

Yes we will fail as Moms. We’ll have those days when all we can do at the end of them is to beg God for grace for the next day.  Don’t give up.  Keep trusting His grace, knowing that “He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it.” (I Thess. 5:24)

Freezer Meals for Your Slow Cooker

 Posted by on February 25, 2014  5 Responses »
Feb 252014
 

Slow Cooker Freezer Meals www.habitsforahappyhome.comThis time last year I made it my goal to cook dinner for my family more often. You can read about it here. I was living up to my promise to my family until my son was hospitalized and our lives got busy with doctors’ appointments and tests. I knew I needed to get back to providing home cooked dinners, so I decided to finally try some of the freezer meals I see posted online.

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