Aug 152011
 

When we decided our topic for August, I was both excited and apprehensive. I was anxious to hear what all my fellow bloggers had to say on the subject, and fearful that I would never be able to come up with something to contribute myself! See, much like Trisha, I have a terrible memory. Since we had children, I just feel so scatterbrained all the time. Like I’ve had pregnancy brain for the last 10 years, and only a few of those years I could actually blame it on pregnancy. So often in our house, I see a habit that I need to work on, or I read some great thing that would benefit our family, and we might even do it once or twice… but then we let it go. It just gets forgotten. Buried among all the distractions. So I don’t have any great wisdom to share, only a couple very simple coping strategies.

I think that technology is probably to blame for a lot of the habit-issues we have. We all know what a time drain it can be. Our lives are driven by devices. Devices that distract us so, so easily. So I guess I’m fighting fire with fire here, because I use those same distracting devices to help me with habit building. For me, this is the modern day equivalent of a string tied to my finger.

First, I use the calendar program on my computer. This is Outlook, but I’m sure most of the calendars out there work much the same. This little list is all the things that are coming up. Of course it contains all my appointments and our family’s scheduled activities, but I’ve also added things that I want to remember to do. Things I’m likely to forget. See there at the top of the list – my reminder to write this post :) And down there near the bottom, a reminder to clean the bannister & stair rails – something that doesn’t need to be done often, but if I don’t have a reminder, it will not be done at all.

Then for more short-term things and one time reminders, I set alarms on my phone. During the summer we had a rule that if chores were done by 7 PM, the kids could stay up an extra hour for some family time. The second one is to remind me to water my front porch plants. And the last one was to make sure I remembered to bring some books to a friend at church.

Now that we’re starting school, I’m going to take advantage of these tools even more. We fell out of the habit of having a family devotion time before school. I’ll be adding an alarm on my phone for that one. I also want to make some time for us to get outside and do a little PE each day. We’ll have an alarm for that one too. And I want to remember to celebrate some of those fun random, everyday holidays, so I’ll go through and add them to the calendar on the computer.

Aug 102011
 

It is my turn to post.  I am late, actually.  Several catchy articles compete for attention in my brain, all having to do with habits:   “Top Ten Habits for a Clutter-Free Home,” ” How to Keep Children Interested in Schoolwork,” and “Habits for Keeping Hubby Happy.”  All may be written someday, but right now my heart is heavy with my friend’s burden.  Her two and a half year old daughter is in the hospital facing cancer, surgery, and chemotherapy.  Three older siblings stay home under the care of relatives and friends while Mom and Dad keep vigil over Baby’s bedside, unable to attend to the needs of their other children.  Friends from our homeschool group reach out with food, transportation, childcare, house cleaning, cards, and prayer support.  I can only imagine the shock I would feel at such a diagnosis for one of my children, but for the dear friend, the shock is a reality.  So I want to remind us to remember the habit that really matters…love.  Love God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength.   Then let His love pour out through you into your husband and children.   Give a hug, read a story, get up early and make a special breakfast.   Listen, really listen, to your teenager.  Let that love spill over to other believers, especially those hurting or in need.  Send a card, bring a casserole, take your friend’s children to the park so she can have a much needed rest.  Jesus said believers would be known by our love one to another.  Put love first, and let everything else fall into place…schedules, schoolwork, chores.  All important things, but remember “the greatest of these is love.”
Wife and homeschooling mother of three, Kim enjoys reading, writing, and watching old movies. A self-proclaimed chocoholic, she also loves to cook and bake. You can find more of her musings (and recipes) at thedaisymuse.com.

Aug 092011
 

Photo taken of Mary Engelbreit’s Silly Mother Goose board book.

One of our readers recently asked: How do you make habits stick? Or you might be thinking…

Are you kidding me? How can I accomplish that with all that is going on in my home?

Yes, we are a website devoted to Habits for a Happy Home. For me, over the years with babies, toddlers, stacks of school books, hungry mouths and now towering teens, these are the basic routes I’ve discovered for seeing results in building habits. The habits for building habits, if you will:

1. Pray – it is amazing how often I try to do things in my own power. Please friends, remember to turn to the source of strength. Ask. Bring it all  – everything – to Him.

2. Just Pick One Habit to Build – Chief habit builder, Flylady, works on one habit a month. Just adding one habit per month beats the overwhelm and makes it doable. Baby steps, as she says. Check out Flylady’s August habit, It hits home – Laundry!

3. Think practically. Be easy on yourself. Pick a habit that works into your day. Something you already do:

  • Prayer? Here’s how I learned to make it a habit, all day long, with a passel of children: Practical Prayer
  • Food? For me I decided to double up while I was making a mess anyway. I built a habit, most days, of: Making Supper at Lunch.
  • Homeschooling? Has the morning resulted in a disheveled room OR just how in the world can we accomplish it all? We can feel accomplished and do: One More Thing After Lunch.

4. Make it fun. Two of our longest running family habits were built around the supper table. We all have to eat, right? Celebrate Every Day and Mad, Sad, Glad.

Well, a coffee drink always helps motivate me too. How about you?

Aug 012011
 

It’s August already! For many of us, August means back to school, back to a schedule, back to a routine. I always love the start of a new school year. I love planning the new schedule. I love to think of all the little things I’d like to incorporate into our day. We always start strong. All the pencils are sharp with  good erasers on them. The notebooks are clean and crisp. The kids are determined to write neatly and get their work done quickly. I am determined to grade papers the day I get them and tuck them happily into the fresh new binders.

But sometime after Labor Day, the fresh new routine becomes mundane and we all begin to let things slide. The pencils have been chewed. The notebooks are creased and torn. The handwriting is sloppy. The schoolwork is piled up, waiting for me to grade it.

I’m not sure why that happens. I don’t really know why it is so hard for us to stick with something… to not only start strong, but to finish strong. That is why I am so excited about our topic this month -  How do you make habits stick?

I can’t wait to hear what my fellow bloggers have to say about this. And what about you? We’d love to hear from you too. Do you have some special habit-sticking secret you’d be willing to share?

Kendra is a stay-at-home homeschooling mother of four rowdy boys. She’s been married to her high-school sweetheart for twelve years. When she’s not playing teacher, nurse, cook or housekeeper, she loves to read and write.

Feb 172010
 

The “Workbox Systemworks for us!!

The Lord has really been speaking to me about my Habits and I am so thankful He is because I want to be the best I can be for the Lord, my husband and my boys. The workbox system is a tool that God has put in my path and it truly is a very much appreciated gift. This is helping  (pushing) me to be more focused, accountable, organized and more. This system is helping to take away the questions from my boys “How much more of school do we have?”, “What are we doing today?”. It has taken away the normal opportunities for distractions and it keeps us moving at a better pace. I’m very happy with what this system is doing for my boys and myself so I  just had to share how the workbox system looks in our home. This is a follow-up on two other post of mine on the subject of Habit Formation. One is Habit of Crying out to God and the other is What about our own HabitsREAD MORE