Dec 082011

I’m not a very good wife or mother sometimes.  My husband knows through my tone, attitude and words that I don’t like what he just did.  The kids are arguing and I raise my voice and tell them to stop fighting.   I struggle with sin and make mistakes.  At times I feel like I really blow it.  I use to get really down on myself (I still occasionally do).  I know that I’m forgiven etc., but so much of my identity can be wrapped up in being a wife, mother, and a homemaker.

Have you ever had one of those days where it feels like you aren’t doing anything right?  Besides struggling with sin, you’re struggling with keeping things together, you’re behind in your commitments, there are so many things that you feel like you should do, but you’re not able to.  You ask yourself how come so and so are able to do this, but not me?  Do you get down on yourself?  Do you find yourself questioning whether you are a good wife? mom? home-maker?  etc.?

Where is your identity or self-worth found?

How do you think of yourself? What is your identity tied to… being a wife, a mother, a friend, a homeschooler, a  homemaker, a writer, a ____________? Continue reading »

Taming the “wild west”

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Sep 222011

In a recent post on Passionate Purposeful Parenting entitled Defense in Depth, I wrote about the methods we use to protect our children from the “wild west” of the Internet.  The techniques I mentioned work very well for our computers and other devices in our home.

But what about those pesky mobile devices?

You know the ones I’m talking about: iPhones, iPads, iPods, even laptops.  How can these devices, that can “roam” to foreign wireless networks be protected with equal vigilance?  How do we ensure that the “wild west” doesn’t reach us when we’re mobile?

Our answer?  Blue Coat Systems has made its Internet filtering software available for free. They’ve created a consumer-friendly parental-control solution called K9 Web Protection that’s based on their commercial filtering technology. Any parent can get the software for free by going to

K9 is available for the Windows and Macintosh computer platforms.  Blue Coat has also made the software available for the iPhone, iPod, and iPad.  The computer-based software can be configured using your web browser (Internet Explorer, FireFox, and Opera are fully supported).  The iOS version replaces the Safari browser and filters web browsing on iOS devices.

The best part is that K9 is free for all platforms.  You can download the computer software from their website, and the iOS version is available in the iTunes App store.  Just search for K9.

It’s All in the Tone

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Sep 132011

We’re at the neighborhood pool on a Saturday. Littlest guy, who is not scared of the water at all, jumped and dog paddled all morning. I look over as he swims to his Daddy, face down in the water. Suddenly, he comes up coughing and sputtering. Calmly, Daddy says, “You’re ok. Cough it out now. Good job on the swimming!” Littlest guy smiles at his Daddy.

How would our three-year-old have acted had we all jumped at him, scooped him up and frantically asked if he was ok? He likely would have been scared.

A few nights later, I awake to booming, rattling thunder, bright flashes of lightning and weather alert alarms going off. Read more…

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-Tricia homeschools five children from preschool to middle school. She’s forsaken life in the drive thru lane for the road home. She contributes a blend of writing at parenting, homeschool and frugal living sites. You can find her facing that daily dose of chaos at Hodgepodge. Tricia is a.k.a. Hodgepodgemom.

Jul 262011

God answered my son’s prayer for a $85 dollar Lego set with a YES. He found 70 dollars on the ground and with that and what he had in spending and recycling money he was within one dollar of the amount he needed. God showed Nathan that He definitely cares about him (my son is a thinker, he asks questions and wants proof), that He listens, and that He answers prayer. My son saw that prayer is powerful. My son prayed, believing that God would answer that prayer; he would check the mailbox looking for a check every day. He didn’t doubt that God could and would answer his prayer.

18And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.” Ephesians 6:18

I am a big believer in the importance and power of prayer. As a result I try and pray often with and for my children. I thought I would share some of what we do to make prayer a priority. Continue reading »

Apr 272011

We, at Habits for a Happy Home, have the pleasure of introducing you to Melanie Robbins. She is the mother and writer behind Passionate Purposeful Parenting. We are excited to announce that she will be writing for us quarterly! Today she is hosting us on her site.

I encourage you to click over and spend some time there. Not only are there parenting posts from 18 authors, there is also a resource section and a prayer calendar.

Now, I will turn it over to Melanie…

Who is Number One?

by Melanie Robbins

They say there is nothing like a mother’s love.  I think most mothers can relate with this saying.

Extravagant love – the love I have for my children.  I would do and/or sacrifice most anything for my children. I don’t believe that there is anything inherently wrong with this, but it can lead to something that should not happen – having my children come before my relationship with God.

I must confess that I feel like I have made my children an idol sometimes. So much of my life, it seems, now revolves around them, especially now that I am homeschooling. Anyone who knows me and/or reads my website/blog knows that I am passionate about parenting.

Children truly are a gift from God.  (Psalm 127: 3) He entrusted them to me to raise the way He would want them to be raised.   I am to love, provide for, and train them up in the way that they should go, yes, but not put them before God. Continue reading »