Jul 142011

From the 2008 Writing About the Journey archives…

Today I went out to eat with my family. I went to the bathroom and on the back of the stall door was written “I heart Jesus”. At first I thought this was much better than reading the many other things that I have seen on the back of bathroom stall doors but then on second thought it made me angry. Did the person who wrote that think about the custodian or restaurant worker that would have to scrub that off or about the cost that business have to put out to replace things like door and stuff because people write on them? Did they also think about the fact that writing on other people’s property is vandalism? They probably did not. I am sure there was an ounce of zeal for the Lord in writing that.

Today in Ridge Kidz we talked about how to show God we love Him. I love this because we show God we love Him the same way we show people we love them….through actions. They completed this worksheet that showed things that show God love and things that don’t. Guess what was under the “don’t” box….writing on the walll!!! Whoever wrote that on the wall must have missed that lesson in Sunday School ; )

In all actuality, that wasn’t that big of a deal. What’s a little writing on the back of a door? But I think it illustrates something I have been convicted off…..stop talking or writing and do something! Aren’t Christians guilty of that? We will go Bible study or get coffee with a friend and talk about God. This is an edifying thing but It’s just talk! We cant stop there.
Jesus taught. He served. He invested time and energy in friendships. He healed people. He listened and cared. He didn’t just talk.
If there is any true resolution I have this year, it is to be more like Him in that aspect. I want to be a doer of the Word not a just a hearer or a talker. I want to love others, help, serve, listen to, feed and care about people. I don’t want to “heart” Jesus by writing it on a bathroom wall…. I want to love Jesus by loving others!

Trisha is a wife, mom, friend, artist, blogger, couponer, homemaker, cook, and bargain shopper… through God’s amazing grace and love she lives for Him! For more about her check out her blog: writingaboutthejourney.wordpress.com

Jun 162011

Last summer, I had every intention to do fun things with my kids but inevitably failed. We did a couple “fun things”. This summer I have the same desire to have fun with my kids and enjoy this wonderful season.

Our schedule is not as much busy as it is sporadic. We are living with our family so there is not as much set “schedule” as we used to have (which is fun for now). So instead of setting myself up for failure by writing on the calendar ‘scheduled fun activities’ (Ha! I so desire to be type-A!), I came up with the idea for a “fun bucket”.
I googled “summer fun for preschoolers” and found sooo much! I flipped through the blogs and websites and wrote down ones that fit best for our family. One of my favorites is Disney Family.go!

When we have time or a free afternoon, I grab an idea and DO IT! I think older kids could get in to this one too! They could research the ideas themselves and maybe place the ideas in a large sand pail! Teens or “tweens” could make a ‘Summer Bucket List’ of all the fun things they want to do that summer. You could maybe have a reward or party for teens and tweens completing their list/emptying their bucket! Continue reading »

May 122011

Our Sunday School class is doing a study called “Peace Maker”. It’s mainly about conflict resolution and taking the Biblical approach to solving relational issues in the home, church, and workplace. It is really great! A lot of good Truth!
A couple of weeks ago the speaker (via video) was talking about one of his conflict resolution techniques in his counseling sessions. He had the two people he was counseling go home and read Philippians 4:8. Then he instructed them to make a list of good, honorable, excellent things about the other person. He then had them share their list with each other during their next session.
He said it was like what Proverbs says about “heaping burning coals”. Thinking well about the other person made a breakthrough in their argument. It helped them remember the reasons that made them go in to business together in the first place.

So it got me thinking tangibly. I thought this was a great idea especially for husbands and wives! Then, I had another idea: to make a board where I can list good qualities about my husband or anyone I might be in conflict with, throughout the week. This helps consciously and continually think well about the other person or persons in my life.
I also thought it would be good to list “good qualities” about a difficulty situation you are going through too.
Here’s how I made mine:
Start with a cheap picture frame with a glass or plastic front. I got this one from Goodwill for a couple dollars.

Then cut some scrapbook paper to size. I got a little creative with mine : ) Continue reading »

Stay at Home Mom

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Apr 142011

I wrote this about a year ago. A year later, I find myself needing to hear it again!

I have been a stay-at-home mom for almost 2 years. Wow! Time flies! I ate lunch with a friend yesterday I had not really talked to much since Ella was born. She said, “How are you?” (It’s nice to have friends who ask that and mean it!) She asked if I like having two kids and how I was handling the adjustment. After I got done telling her (I am never one to be short on words), she had tears in her eyes and thanked me for being so transparent. I’m not sure what she could possibly glean from my situation but I thought it might be good to share.

Maybe there is someone else like me struggling with being a stay at home mom. Maybe there is not but maybe I can encourage you by showing you the way my God works intimately in my life… Even two years in a still struggle… with the “call” if you will. I struggle with feeling…lonely (22-month-olds have limited conversation skills), vulnerable because I don’t bring in an income, guilty for not bringing home a paycheck, guilty because I don’t do enough around the house and that’s my only “job”, guilty because I do too much around the house and don’t play with my kids enough, exhausted because you never get that “clock out” moment… my ‘work’ is 24/7. Mainly I struggle with feeling inadequate, unimportant and forgotten. Daily I get peed on, spit up on, pooped on or used as a snot rag! That can mess with your mind after a while. I start to accept the thought that I do not have value; I’m just a living breathing burp cloth.

In high school and college, I begged God to use me greatly. I wanted to be apart of His plan and His work. I was serious too! I desire that more than anything else. While lugging two screaming children out of Walmart with a hand full of groceries, I start to doubt God answered my prayer. The other day we went to dinner with the staff and some other staff personnel from another church. Everybody took their seats. I was on the far end of a long table with my children. I couldn’t even hear the “adult conversation” let alone engage in it. I thought, “Why did I even come? I can watch my children a lot easier than at some noisy restaurant?” Then the self pity set in and I let all sorts of whiny thoughts dialog with God in my mind. Baby girl had to eat about 10 mins after the food got there. By the time I made it to the car to feed her, I was in tears, loathing in my self pity.

I said, “God, this isn’t fair! I used to lead meetings, plan things, direct, and teach… I used to be important!!! I don’t know if I like this mom thing… especially the ‘stay-at-home mom’ thing! I want a ministry back! I don’t want to be benched anymore! I want to be apart of Your plan! Is that so bad?!!!” In almost an audible stern father-like voice to my heart God replied, “Trisha, when will you accept the ministry I have given you? Just because in your eyes it seems small, does not mean you are being any less disobedient to not surrender to it! This is NOT about you! It is still very much about Me! Now are you going to fulfill YOUR ministry? “I have been “chewing” on this one for awhile! My Father is right (surprise! surprise!). For too long I have been looking over my children’s shoulders for something better, all the while missing what is right in front of me! God is good. He is such a teacher!

And as far as the whole “unimportant thing”…. “Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” Philippians 2: 5-8 I haven’t even scratched the surface on true humility.

Trisha is a wife, mom, friend, artist, blogger, couponer, homemaker, cook, and bargain shopper… through God’s amazing grace and love she lives for Him! For more about her check out her blog: writingaboutthejourney.wordpress.com

Feb 102011

I came across this verse the other day in Job:

He has walled up my way so that I cannot pass, And He has put darkness on my paths. – Job 19:8

It reminded me of another verse from Hosea, one of the most beautiful love stories of all.

Therefore, behold I will hedge up her way with thorns, And I will build a wall against her so that she cannot find her paths. She will pursue her lovers, but she will not find them. Then she will say, I will go back to my first husband, For it is better me than now! Hosea 2:6-7

The first verse is from Job. If you are unfamiliar of the story of Job it is a book well worth reading! Job was afflicted in every way. He lost his family, home and even health. Although he was honest before the Lord and spoke his frustration, he remained faithful!
The second verse is from my favorite book of the Bible, Hosea. This book contains a beautiful story of a harlot who is bought and pursued by her husband. She leaves him to go back to her old life, but he seeks after her every time.
My husband and I went out last weekend on a date. We are at a weird place in our life right now. We have a lot of questions, hurts and… well we are just plain worn out from circumstances we have just been through. There was little flirting and over-flowing love on this date. We just kinda sat there and ate quietly. We are both feeling like Job did in the verse above in many ways right now.
Maybe you too are not feeling the whole “Valentine’s season” for reasons of your own. Continue reading »